Wednesday, January 10, 2018
Waves on the Eve of My Birthday
9:10 PM
I finally understand what people mean by the waves now. They come up fast and continue to knock me over; sometimes without any warning. Driving, sitting, doing laundry. There doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason. This morning I was productive -I went to have lunch with Nate, ordered some groceries, and went to the bank. Then this afternoon as I was trying to nap I was so overcome with grief it scared me. Every inch of my body was hurting, and I could not cry hard enough or scream loud enough.
Later in the day I pulled it together and went and picked up the groceries and it hit me again out of nowhere while I was driving. There is nothing that prepares you for losing a parent. I've found much comfort in words of those that have already walked this path or are currently walking it with me.
If grief is like an ocean, I fear I will never learn to swim.
Tomorrow is my birthday. The 1st one in my life without my dad. I think the anticipation of tomorrow may be worse than the actual day. I am making myself physically sick thinking about it although in reality, how bad can it be really? It would just be a simple phone call. Laura Leigh, happy birthday. Love, Your Father. He used to always send a homemade card, but I hadn't received one of those in a few years. I found a pile of them with some of my pictures -
I get my writing from my mom... I have my baby book, and she wrote down every detail of my 1st year, including the weekend I was born. I've heard the story a million times from both my mom and my dad. It varies a bit depending on who is telling the story.
My mom writes on 1/12/73: Laura Leigh was born on the worst day weather-wise that we have seen in 50 years. It snowed 4" and the streets were quite slick. Labor pains began at 3:15 AM on January 11, 1973, and I watched her arrive at 6:18 PM. Daddy was all alone most of the day due to the weather conditions but was all smiles as we came out of the delivery room. He said "You done good!" and I felt the exact same way! She is a lovely little girl that looks just like her daddy.
The part that she didn't write and he would often dispute is that it was Super Bowl VII - Miami Dolphins versus the Washington Redskins. The Dolphins defeated the Redskins by the score of 14–7, and became the first and still the only team in NFL history to complete a perfect undefeated season. After I was born,
she didn't see him again until Monday, the 15th and that was the 1st time he held me. Priorities. He claims he couldn't get back due to the weather. I've checked that Farmer's Almanac - it was terrible for sure, but I've learned that he was indeed "super-bowling" all weekend! Sounds about right.
The picture above is a photograph from my baby book. I love the way he is looking at me, but mostly I dig that couch! Joking aside, he looked at me that way my entire life.
My mom also wrote a note to me in my baby album that said: "to say he loves you more than anyone would be an understatement." The way he looked at me, I believe her.
My 45th birthday is going to be a tough one without the man that loved me more than anyone.

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