Saturday, December 24, 2016

The Hivory Happy Holiday Season Post


Happy Holidays from the Hivory Family -


This year - 2016 - is not our year!  We are a blended family - what that means for us most of the time is more children, more happy, more love, more smiles, more laughter and sometimes more hard, more sadness, and more tears but mostly more happy! But every other year - the even years, Ian and I are left without all of the children, the smiles, the laughter, and no matter how many years go by -- it doesn't get any easier!  Look at those sweet faces - how can we Christmas without them?




The answer is -- we don't!  Today is the 24th but it is not "our" Christmas Eve and tomorrow will be the 25th but not "our" Christmas day.  The wonderful thing about our family is how well we all get along -- the children are SO loved!!  We really could not ask for anything better for them - they are with the rest of their families celebrating and sharing their smiles and happiness with them this year!

Ian and I busy ourselves during this time and although it is never easy we are comforted by the love, happiness, smiles, and cheer that we know the littles are experiencing. That being said the tears still flow and my heart still aches to be with them during this time!



So, before I take myself to the spa for a day full of pampering I will share these amazing smiles with the rest of you . . .

Thank you to Natalie K for capturing all of this happy!

Emma - Age 12

Lexi - Age 12

Sophie - Age 10

Nate - Age 8

London - Age 6


Aren't they the cutest?  And getting so big! How did we get so lucky?  These kiddos really make our house a home, our hearts so full, our family complete, and our bank account SO empty!  






From our hearts to yours . . . Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah! 


Thursday, November 3, 2016

Diabetes -- Facts, Love, and Grace






I posted this picture one year ago today at the beginning of Diabetes Awareness month.  It came up in my FB newsfeed this morning.

The same medicine (insulin) that keeps Nate alive, is the same thing that can kill him if given just a little too much.

Last week we had a terrible scare.  I had just finished getting ready for an earned Plexus event at the Gaylord.  I was in my hotel room about to head out and my phone was blowing up with text messages.

Ian texted me and told me that Nate's insulin pump, his Omnipod had "alarmed" that there was an occlusion and it had stopped working right as they were sitting down for dinner.  They were out so we both agreed that an injection was the best course of action.

A few minutes later Ian sent a follow-up text to confirm the amount of insulin given.

Laura!

Baby!

Is this what 2.35 unites looks like?

Over here!


He knows me so well.  He knew I was distracted so he kept trying.  His gut told him to do so.  I finally responded.  I called him right away.  I was hoping that he was kidding but he was not.  He had mistakenly given Nate 23 units insulin instead of 2.35.

How could this happen?
I was scared.
My head was spinning.
I was having trouble processing.

I wanted to be with Nate.

We made a plan to meet at the house, load up the kids, and head to the hospital.  We did the math and there were just too many carbs to consume to keep him safe.  To keep him alive.

The drive home was excruciating.  6 o'clock traffic.  Ian was feeding Nate.  Cookies, cake, and candy - Nate's dream come true!  But his tummy started to hurt and he couldn't eat anymore.

Ian was so calm, yet nervous at the same time.  He felt overw
helming guilt.  I could see the fear and disappointment in his eyes.  It made me love him even more.  You see, anyone could have made this mistake. It is not terribly uncommon.  Most people have no idea how small 2 units of insulin actually is when drawn into a syringe.  It is difficult to draw up such a small amount.  These is no 5 on the syringe so often the 10 is mistaken for 1.0.
In the hospital I have noticed that when the nurses give insulin to a patient a 2nd nurse has to come in and verify the dose before it is given.

---23 units could have been a lethal dose for Nate.

We got to the hospital and an insulin overdose gets your priority access.  We went back and after blowing out 2 IVs Nate's blood sugar was going up --- not down!  He was so nervous, so scared -- his adrenaline was pumping.  They finally got an IV in for a glucose drip and we waited for him to bottom out.  It never happened.  TWENTY THREE units of insulin and he never dropped below 190.

What in the world?

Was it the carbs?  Was it the adrenaline? Was it the combination?  Was it my sheer will wishing for my son to be ok? Is it possible to wish that hard for something?





On a different note --- isn't he the cutest boy you have ever seen?  LOVE . . . Super Nate!


We stayed at the hospital for about 5 hours to make sure Nate stayed safe.  We watched Big Hero Six and Ant Man.  Nate charmed all of the nurses and the doctor.  Here really is adorable.  Ian never left Nate's side.  I love the way he made him feel safe.

The 1st question the few people we have shared with have asked me is, if I was mad at Ian?

I was absolutely not mad an Ian.  It could have happened to me and he's my husband -- we are family.  I stand beside him, I support him, I love him.

That is what parents do--support, show grace, forgive hard, love hard, and stand united.



Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Delivery Day & Waiting for Remission

I've been waiting all day.  I called twice.  It should have been here by 3p.

Here we are now 7p and the UPS truck just rolled up the street.

Finally.

Sophie's next dose of Humira is this Friday and I've been waiting for it to arrive.

It is stressful for me knowing she needs this medication and not having it on hand.  I have to call each week and set up a time for delivery.  Then wait.  I hate the waiting.

This week is a big week.  Her 3rd dose.  Friday.

An update on Sophie:

When we started the Humira Sophie was taking 40mg of Prednisone to keep her symptoms at bay.  We have dropped her dose by 5mg each Saturday since her 1st dose.  A week and a half ago we dropped to 15mg and after 2 days on that dose her symptoms started coming back.

She had been to the fair with her dad ---
Fair food.  It had to be the fair food!!

But, it was not the fair food.  The symptoms increased.

This last weekend while we were on vacation, her dad and I decided to increase her dose back to 20mg in hopes that she would start feeling better.  Her doctor fully supported this decision. After several days on the higher dose ---today she is feeling better with no symptoms.

What does this mean?  Why is this happening?  Is the Humira not working?

When she started Remicade it seemed to have worked instantly.  Maybe it wasn't instantly but she had been so sick that it did seem to bring almost instant relief.

It has been a tough 7 days.  I have no idea what our next step will be.

She is scared.  I am scared.
She is concerned. I am concerned.
I cannot tell her everything will be ok.  I do not know that it will be.

Her doctor has ordered stool studies, called in more prednisone, and wants to start her on Flagyl.  She said it can take time for the Humira to build up in her system.

More waiting.  Waiting for it to work.  Waiting to find out if it will work.  Is this going to work?  Please let this work!

An update on the mom:

These last few days/weeks/months have been hard.  I have struggled more than I thought I would.  It is hard to see your children struggle and/or suffer.  She was in remission for so long, that besides going to the hospital every month for treatment, it was easy to forget that she has such a debilitating disease.  It was easy for me to push it all down and live as normally as possible.  My understanding is that this is pretty common.  Once you get through a bad flare into remission you just want to forget.

Maybe I never fully dealt with her diagnosis.  It was just months after Nate was diagnosed with Type One Diabetes.  I was probably in shock or denial or still in the diabetes diagnosis haze.  And let me be clear --- there was a big haze!  There were tears and there was sadness but it was all a blur from the haze.

I'm not sure I ever really sat with the sadness. I was too busy making it better for her and for Nate and for everyone else.  I firmly believe that it is ok to be sad and I think for a long time I have tried to hide all the sad and the mad from Sophie but I know now it is ok for her to know.  She has always been so stoic and brave --- I want her to know it is ok for her to be sad and mad or both at times.  It is also ok to be scared.  This is a big disease to carry and she needs to find her way.  I can't do it for her - I will be beside her every step of her journey to become her own warrior.  We have always called ourselves warriors.  Warrior Mom and Warrior Little!

I am reading the book, Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton.  This woman is in my head and in my soul.  As I was reading her words yesterday on the plane, they are so much of everything that I am and that I believe and that I want for my children.  She is like a magical unicorn that has been inside my crazy brain! Or maybe we are all more alike than most feel comfortable admitting? Slightly off topic but it is a great book that should be read by all!

My biggest take away yesterday while reading was a reassuring confirmation on something I had written down earlier this year and she said almost the same thing in her book.

For my children -- Making them warriors: I cannot take away their pain, I can sit with them in the pain because it is part of our journey.  We can handle hard things because we are warriors! With all of my soul I want them to be warriors and always warrior on! Part of becoming a warrior is being brave enough to feel it all and walk through it all.  That is how you find the beauty -- you have to walk though and feel it.

I feel it all and I will continue to walk through it.

Sophie and I are going through a sad season but we will walk through it together.  I love walking beside her and watching her grow strong and resilient.


Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Humira - Round Two


Last Friday was Sophie's 2nd dose of Humira and our 1st time to do it at home ourselves.  There were a few tears and a lot of nerves - Sophie and I were both very nervous! 

She was nervous because she knew how it was going to hurt and I was nervous because I knew how it was going to hurt her too.  

It goes against everything in your mommy soul to hurt your child.  I remember feeling this way after Nate was diagnosed with diabetes when I had to hold him down to give him his insulin shots.  Those shots have gotten easier for us and I know the Humira shots will get easier for us both with time too.  











Friday, October 7, 2016

A New Hope - Humira




On Friday, September 23rd, we began a new chapter in Sophie's Crohn's Disease story.  After we got the results back that told us she had built up antibodies to the Remicade we immediatly began the insurance battle for Humira.  It was a long and heated battle but in the end we came out victorious and the Humira was delivered while Ian and I were still in Hawaii.  As soon as it arrived, I made plans with Sophie's doctor to come into the hospital to learn how to administer the meds.  We had heard and read absolute horror stories about Humira.  About the pain that it causes after the injection.  Sophie had heard them too.  We both had a lot of apprehension and fear about this new chapter.  Sophie's doctor recommended that we see the GI Peds Psychiatrist before coming in for the 1st injections.  

I am so glad we were able to do that!  She worked through both of our fears, gave Sophie some great coping skills, and a few tips for getting through the injection without it being quite so terrible.  It was good for us both to be able to have someone to talk to about it and calm our fears. 

On the 23rd we made our way to the hospital, all a bit nervous for what was about to come but we had a plan, and there was a calmness --- there was also a promise of Chick Fil A and the rest of the day off from school!  SCORE! 

Here is what I posted on Facebook after we were done.  I meant every word.  She is so strong, so stoic, and so very brave:

We did it. She is so brave. I do not take bravery lightly --- she was so strong and brave and fierce. 

She didn't want any distractions (ice, candy, numbing cream) --- she wanted to just do it. 
Y'all I love her brave self so much!!

The nurse gave the 1st shot and I did the 2nd one. She tried so hard not to cry but I told her it was totally fine if she wanted to do so ---- so we cried together.  My mommy heart broke to pieces watching her be so brave and endure such pain while trying to keep her brave face on. 

She said it was worse than she thought it was going to be --- pain level 10 out of 10. She did so great! 

We will begin to taper the prednisone and should know if the Humira is working by mid-October. 








This is being posted on Friday, October 7th, it has been 2 weeks since her 1st injections.  Today she gets her 2nd dose but we do it at home.  On our own.  

Stay tuned for my next post.  Things have been hard.  Harder than expected.  Mostly for me.  It is so difficult watching Sophie deal with so much.  I fear I have fallen back years.  She is doing so much better than I am.  I have been dreading this day, yet here it is . . . 


Thursday, September 1, 2016

The End of Remicade

From Facebook Post 8/31/16:

Last night we got the word from Sophie's doctor that her body has built up antibodies to the Remicade. 
In July we had hoped that a tummy bug from Disney had thrown her out of remission but when she got sick again 4 weeks later we knew it was something else. Last night our suspicions were sadly confirmed. Now we will begin a new journey seeking remission for the Doodle. 
I'll be speaking with her doctor today about Humira. In the meantime she begins another round of steroids. 40mg of prednisone. Aw LORT! #SteroidSophie 😬
Thank you so much for all of your kind and encouraging words on my post yesterday. They were read and they were felt ❤️.




Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Empty Cup


From Facebook post 8/30/2016:





I used to have this cute little blog called Houston We Have a Problem, it was my way of kicking, screaming, crying, and venting without actually doing all of those things all of the time! It got me through some really dark days after Nate's Type One Diabetes diagnosis and then again after Sophie's Crohn's Disease diagnosis. And a few days in between! 
I love to write and express myself through that outlet. I found as I moved further away from the diagnoses and found happiness in other aspects of my life I needed HWHAP less and less. Or maybe more accurately there were fewer things to write about and words did not come quite as easily. Also, Facebook has become a miniature blog of sorts where I can share, vent, and overshare! 
I often share about the kids and what is going on with each of them and the toll that each disease has taken on each child in our family. Lately though, I have shared a bit more about the toll that they have taken/are taking on me. Diabetes is ever challenging but after nearly 7 years it does fade into the background a little bit and becomes more like breathing or blinking on most days. There are of course, days that if diabetes was a person I would punch that person in the face but most days I just breathe. 
Sophie was in remission for a good stretch with a few set backs here and there but Remicade has been good to her for 4.5 years. When Crohn's disease fades into the background you move forward as quickly as you can and separate yourself from the hell that it can be during times of non-remission. 
In October of last year Sophie experienced a setback and we had some tough weeks or was it a month? Crohn's Disease is not pretty, there is no way to put a pretty bow on it, and package it up. It is horrible. It is messy. It is mean. It is exhausting. --In October I let myself slip back into the place I had been after her diagnosis. I was on mom-autopilot dealing with everything the best I could at the time. What that meant for me is that I put myself last in every way possible. Even with the very things that I know I need daily to get through it all. And we did it --- we got through it. But what was the toll on the family? I was once again a shell of the mom I know that I can be.
Fast forward to March 2016 when I had to go to the doctor for allergies and an ankle injury. Allergies? Why were those back? I was sick again for the 3rd time in a short period and felt worn down physically and emotionally. It all hit me when I stepped on the scale and the nurse causally read off the numbers. Ummm - what? I was sick, worn down, tired, AND had gained 20 pounds! I would love to say how did I get here? But I knew. I had stopped working out like I love to do, I had stopped running which I love, I was not being consistent with my Plexus products at all. I was running on fumes and let myself slip so far backwards. 
I had to sit down and really think about what was going on. I had to make a commitment to myself. I had to commit to begin working on putting myself first. As a mom that feels so overwhelming, it feels impossible, and it feels pretty selfish at times too! Right? The reality is that we can't take care of others if we don't take care of ourselves! What good am I to my children, to my husband, to my friends, to my family if I am an 'empty cup'?
Line. Drawn. -----> In the sand! 
I started back. Right then and there.
With exercising (like I should), running, eating right, and Plexus. 
By convention (June) I was back! I felt better, had more energy, I was happier, healthier and down 20lbs. I was a new person. Again. 
Now we are facing our next storm. The Remicade is not working like it should. We are facing the awful reality that it is time to explore new options to get her back into remission. We are facing all of it together. I am vowing to myself, to my family, and to my friends that I will not pour from that empty cup. There will be tough days but I will find the time to take care of Sophie, the other littles, the husband and myself. 
Surviving motherhood on lots of love, compassion, forgiveness, and Plexus! 















Sophie's 10th B-day Party - 2/2/16

Convention - June 2016






Thursday, May 26, 2016

Big Little Girls





I spent the day with these 2 littles but they are not so little anymore! And they would for sure never hug on each other like this anymore either! We had their 10-year and 12-year well visits today.  ‪#‎HowDidWeGetHere‬
Emma is now almost 5'5" -- what? She just found out she made AP math for 7th grade and is excited to start tennis too! This girl is a reader!! We had to stop and Barnes and Noble today because she has already read all of those books that I got her for her birthday!! ‪#‎DidNotGetAnyOfThisFromMe‬
Sophie is 4'5" and is still playing catch up from years on steroids due to her CD. The good news is that she is growing steadily now! She's a bit underweight but nothing to worry about at all - she eats like a horse! She tested for EXPO but did not get in, she is disappointed but she is excited now to get to MS (she will only be in 5th next year) so she can test for AP classes like her big sister. She's not competitive at all --sarcastic font! ‪#‎AgainDidNotGetItFromMe‬ --She loves playing the guitar, gymnastics and giving me all kids of attitude.
We had a great day shopping and lunching! I miss my babies but love watching them grow into such smart, funny, and strong young women! Momming is so weird -- joyful and painful and so full of lessons that I never thought such little people could teach.  


Sunday, March 6, 2016

The Post about a Village - A Repost from Facebook (2015)


From 2015:

I am so humbled & blessed to have such wonderful friends & family. I am one lucky not-single-single momma. 
I feel so fortunate to have a wonderful man in my life that treats & cares for my children as if they are his very own. He got them up & helped get them going this morning (as per usual --- I'm not a morning person!!). 
I'm also blessed beyond measure to have wonderful parents that step in at a moments notice to help out with these sweet littles. 
There really are no words to describe my sister-wife & greatest friend ever, Shay A Bosma. She has never let me down & today she stepped into one of my most precious roles without even blinking an eye. 
I have sick littles & it is Remicade day for Sophie. The X couldn't help so I had to call upon my village for help. 
It was a true juggling act trying to get Emma & Nate to the doctor by 9:30 & Sophie to the hospital by 10:30. 
Shay met me at the doctor's office IN PLANO & took Sophie to the hospital for her infusion (after a pit-stop at Chick-Fil-A of course). Once I was done at the doctor my mom met me & took Emma & Nate back to her house for some snuggles & TLC. 
I made it to the hospital just after Sophie got her IV. It's the 1st time I wasn't with her & she did great.  ‪#‎LittleButFierce‬
Thank you to all the people that make up our village or any village. You are all appreciated far more than you will ever know. 






Tuesday, March 1, 2016

#OmniPod 6 Years and Counting





March 1st 2010 - A day of hope and the date that #SuperNate started pumping with the OmniPod Insulin Pump.  Six year y'all!  I say this every year but where did another year go?

3/1/2010 - 20 Months

We are still loving the OmniPod and are so excited about the future plans of the company! You can read about Insulet's artificial pancreas system that will use the innovative and differentiated OmniPod platform, the latest DexCom Continuous Glucose Monitoring (CGM) technology and the algorithm licensed from Mode AGC.  For all of the exciting information click here

Did you read that?  So exciting - right?  ArtificialPancreas anything excites me big time!

Just last night during Nate's pod change (which he is still not a fan of) he said he wished we only had to change a pod once a year.  That would be nice.  Although we do love the OmniPod,  pod change nights can often still be traumatic, sad, and overwhelming for both of us.  It doesn't really hurt, I think it is just the anxiety and build up of the entire situation even though we try to keep it light and easy.

He stresses big time.  Which is hard for this momma to see.  I used to be able to change his pod while he was sleeping but he usually wakes up now and an is extremely agitated and angry.  So, although he wants me to do it while he is sleeping I rarely do because his reaction is usually much worse than when he is actually awake.

I have found that keeping him really involved in the pod change does help.  He likes to have the control so I happily follow his lead on how much he wants to participate each time.




Last night he wanted independence so after we prepared the pod together he went to his room and did the rest.  It was a no muss and no fuss kind of night.  Well, until he went to sleep, his blood sugar sky rocketed, I was up all night chasing highs, got a little too aggressive, then spent the wee hours of the morning changing lows.  Just another day with diabetes - Right?



#NODATA --- Just like my brain today!



Super Nate then ...




Super Nate now:




Wednesday, February 24, 2016

How did I get here?


I shared this recently on Facebook and because I want to start sharing and pouring more into my blog for myself and for others I thought I would add it here as well.  

I originally posted this on 01/07/16:

The 1st picture came up today in my Facebook memories. 

I remember this day 3 years ago like it was yesterday. All three of my children were sick and it was miserable. I was a single mom with no job, I had recently moved out of the only home they had ever known and moved in with my parents, and I had not worked since the birth of my oldest daughter, Emma in 2004. I had no idea how I was going to cover the copays for all three of them, not to mention the cost of the prescriptions that they would need. I vividly remember thinking “How did I get here?”.




I had been happily married to a very successful mortgage banker, I quit working when we had our 1st child and never looked back. We had 2 homes, boats, jet skis, and fancy cars. Life was good!
But in 2009 my youngest, my son, Nate was diagnosed with Type One Diabetes at the age of 14-months old. He was hospitalized for a week but our lives were changed forever. I was completely overwhelmed with 3 children and a baby with T1D. Less than a year later, my middle little, Sophia was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease. She was a very sick little girl spending time in and out of the hospital. My life had been turned upside down. Having 3 children, 2 of which have serious chronic medical conditions is hard. It was hard on me and it was hard on my marriage.
After a very tumultuous and lengthy divorce I was suddenly left without a place to live. I got the truck and the kiddos but he got the house. I definitely got the better end of the deal but I was terrified. I was fortunate to have loving parents to take us in but I knew we could not stay there long. And with 2 chronically ill children that required so much time from me I was not sure how or where I would look for a full time job.
A few short months after this picture was taken, my friend, ShayBosma introduced me to Plexus. We both had great weight loss success and a ton of other health benefits. She signed up as an ambassador and a short time later I followed suit. I had no idea what a blessing Plexus would be to me and to my family at that time. I was able to work Plexus into the nooks and crannies of my life … sitting in carpool, waiting on kids at gymnastics, waiting out high and low blood sugars while Nate was in kindergarten and the endless hours in the hospital while Sophie received her Remicade treatments!!
I became so passionate about helping others feel as good as I did that it was easy to share with friends, with family and on Facebook!! Best job ever! In 2015 I became an Emerald Ambassador with Plexus Worldwide!! In June I picked up my free #PlexusLexus and in September we went on a free trip to #Maui for our #EmeraldExtravaganza (where I got to marry the very handsome love of my life, Ian Ivory!!!). I am beyond thankful to tell you that I now make enough money to never have to worry about a copay EVER again. That may not sound that great but if you have ever been in that position you absolutely know how horrifying it is.
I still have that Yukon XL that I got in the D-I-V-O-R-C-E but I’m not going to lie ---- driving around in my Plexus Lexus is a lot more fun! #PlexusProblems



Friday, February 19, 2016

The Post about the cutest Cheerleader ever #GymcatCheer


WOWOWOWOWOWOWOWOW - Our daughter Lexi and her cheer teams are killing it this year.  Yes, I said TEAMS.  She is on 2 teams this year (and this year only) - Junior 2 and Senior 3.  Both teams are doing so well - - - we are spending every weekend watching cheer competitions and she is collecting trophies and jackets! She is so passionate about cheer and it really shines through in each and every performance.  I love watching all of her sass on the stage!

Some of my favorite pics from this season:







And these . . .








And then there is this:




Oh wait . . . and this one:



Yikes - - - that is her on the left ---- way up in the air.

This weekend we have a big one in Dallas!  The NCA all star competition.  Stay tuned for updates and pictures!




& Ian :)

Just a Mom

I am NOT a doctor, nor do I play one on this blog.

I AM a wife.
I AM the mom of 3 wonderful children.
I AM my son's pancreas.

The information provided on this blog is from our personal experiences with Type 1 diabetes. Because something works for us does not mean it will work for you.

Please consult your doctor if you have any questions or concerns about your health care options.

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